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Jul 21st 2009
written by: Betty Boudoir
Not all men run for the hills the moment you call you and he 'us'. There are a few however, who are visibly irked when we give them a key to our flat or turn into Quasimodo when they hear wedding bells. 
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Tuesday 07 July
Written by Tony Waldeck
Something's wrong with the software. I get the first photo and text but no amount of clicking on the arrow moves the sequence forward
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Sunday 19 July
Written by Jerome Peter
Yeah right, I don't suppose the real reason there are countless thousands of single childless women going to be left on the shelf forever, who will never procreate, is because fifty percent of marriages end in divorce and the man has no rights at all then.
He doesn't just lose a marriage, he loses his house and home, his property, his savings are either taken up with legal fees (if he has any), or awarded to the woman. He loses his pension and worst of all of course, he loses his children and the woman can then draft in her new boyfriend denying not just the father but the paternal grandparents access to their loved ones (which around half of women do to some or a total extent).
She can do this with no fear of being jailed for contempt of court because she will be backed by the man hating media and women's magazines to the hilt if that happened, as they converge vulture like on her, synthetically protective and screaming about the rights of the children to see their mother.
Oh yes, and despite her laying claim to the kids like this as if they were her own personal property, (as far as the law is concerned they are) she then demands that he pays huge amounts of money to her and uses the children as leverage to get it. He is then hounded from pillar to post if he tries to avoid her taking what's left of him, demonised by the man hating media as a 'dead beat dad', until in many cases, he then ends his own life. And he'll probably be demonised for that too.
The man hating media have a lot to answer for but then that's what women want. They don't deseve children anymore. Finally, no I haven't been married, or 'hurt'. I'm just a sensible guy, who like so many others is protecting his assets, his future and his sanity.
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Sunday 19 July
Written by Mysodginist
Hold on!
The knife cuts both ways here.
How many women are commitment shy, but also want everything their own way.
Scenario 1.
A woman decides that she wants to have children.
Not an issue. However, this is with the caveat that mating partner (which is the only way it can be described from her point of view) is not sterile, has a well paid job and can get "paternity" leave.
Woman has baby #1: it is not what she wanted, (say a girl, but wanted, a boy instead).
Partners try for another baby and successfully woman acheives what she wants- a boy. Having now got what she wants, makes up all sorts of reasons to leave including heartbreaking statements about the "abuse" she has been subjected to in order to have children, and then on to Court in order to secure an Order of Jurisdiction for the Children and sue the man for rape. Ironically in law, there is no rape in marriage. This may account for the number of women who prefer to have children outside matrimonial bounds in order to avoid this little loop-hole.
Scenario 2:
Woman has had exactly what she has wanted out of the marriage, whether it be the 2.2 Children, or feels that the husband/boyfriend is actually now worth divorcing because of all the lovely pensions (most of which she has never earned in her own name), and more to the point the amount of money she will receive in the form of renumation for the upkeep of her off-spring, when clearly she only wanted the man's ejacualte.
Scenario 3.
Bored woman: who has now has had everything she has wanted out of the relationship, but can no longer be bothered with the children, because "they get in the way of her career". Again she is more interested in what she can get out of the marriage break up, particularly if there is a house at stake, and will do all she can to get what she wants. That may include perjury if it comes to it, and crying in the dock when it comes to the reply and defence from the male.
Senario 4: Bored woman, but unsuccessfull with it; but has had children:
This is the most dangerous of all. She will be upset that she has not been able to get back in to work, and accuse all employers of Sex Discrimination; yet wanting special terms as well(which is why she has not been employed). She will expect that she can come and go as she pleases, have extensive private phone calls and yet cry discrimination if she feels that will kindle sympathy: this is an even greater danger in larger companies when the majority of staff managers' are female; those who are male feel obliged to follow suit otherwise they are "sexist Barstds".
Ironically if a man tried any of the above stunts he would not last very long in the company.
Because she feels that she hase been "restrained" by her employers and husband will then make up all sorts of stories about discrimiation, leading to divorce. Accusing husband of abuse in front of the children, in some cases sexual abuse- the latter being most difficult to prove but easy to assert.
Husband is usually arrested and either imprisoned for child abuse (which was unproven, but because mummy cried enough in the Witness box to the (usually) female Judge/Arbitrator/ mixed Jury, was given "the benefit of the doubt")
Scenario 5:
Wife having avoided recourses 3&4 and decided to walk away from the relationship altogether, usually without informing the male, dissapearing overnight. Boyfriend/mating partner/husband just comes home to a note " I've gone back to mummy", or worse: "I've gone back to stay with Stan".
At best this can be on the realms of I don't need a man anymore- I can look after myself.
Six months later, mother then discovers that being a single mother is not quite such a laugh afterall and returns home and expects natural father to running back with lots of huggs, kisses and tears, and expecting him to say how much he mas missed her etc. etc.
Scenairio 6: The final and most disastrous .
Mother decides that being a single mum is not such a laugh after all, comes back to matrimonial or fathers new home and just dumps baby in to mating party's hands and tells him to get on with it. Perhaps of note here ladies is that if man did this to woman he would be swarmed upon and ravaged. But its OK if you are a woman because (suddenly) you are so fragile and at risk; when two hours ago you were little miss superwoman!
Having seen two friends go through Scenario 6 I can understand fully why men will no longer commit.
Incidentally in one of the cases of scenario 6, little woman who went running back to Court to get jurisdiction of the child which she (quite literally) dumped on her (former) husband's front door step a year before came in for a nasty shock.
In this case, the father Counter-claimed for jurisduction on the grounds that the child was in a stable enviroment as they had their own area in his parents' house which effectively became a flat. The boy was now about to start Infant School, and had a network of child friends which he had made at play-school. Some of those children were going to the same main-stream school/class, as their son.
The Judge (a female) adjudicated that as the boy was settled, and although the father was working shifts, which were not always compliant with the child's sleep pattern, nonetheless, the child had full protection of the Grand-parents (who were both retired) and it could quite clearly be seen that there was no risk to the child.
On the basis of scenario 6 of this commentary alone, this has made me very wary of women when it comes to marriage, let alone when children are involved. I love children their great fun, even when the "terrible two's and teens'" stages are reached, but as for commitment to a particular woman; unless she was VERY special, then I would rather be Uncle Chris than daddy on his own; indeed my feelings would be the same if I found that my child was without mummy and that she had abonded the child.
Believe me the situations outlined above exist and continue to do so. I have had to deal with so many both proffessionally when dealing with the "carve up" of estates; and through more personal experiences with friends of mine.
No wonder there is a drop in the birth and marriage rates, and fewer men wanting to enter long term relationships. It is not a question of commintment, it is probably a preconceived persecution complex that men have.
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Sunday 19 July
Written by Lara
This is very sad to read. Unfortunately there are women out there like that, who have ruined mens' view of women in general, but there are also women like myself who value a partner first and foremost, whether that brings children or not, who have integrity and do not subscribe to the money-driven culture we live in, even though this makes life more of a struggle.
I am one of the 'single, childless women likely to be left on the shelf' (I should add, attractive and intelligent!)out of choice, because I prefer to choose to be with someone rather than be legally bound and I have seen the amounts of money friends have wasted on vitriolic divorces.
Life is happer if you are true to yourself, give each other freedom and don't be swayed by the masses.
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Tuesday 17 November
Written by Donitz
I did not marry until I was 36 mainly for the perceived reasons(male) stated previously. I am good looking, very successful and before I married had no shortage of female attention. It was great all the benefits without the risk!!!
However, being married has been an incredible experience, 3 years so far. There are as your description states some great women out there.
It turns out Love was the side effect of a great marriage.
Monday 16 November
Written by paul simin
lets face it,the law has allowed women to become gold diggers,majority are low life who will simply go with the man who after a period of time will start arguments leading to divorce so then they are able to grab most of the assets!muslims have seen this since the dawn of time,and have made laws to keep these bitches in line!i am a christian in nature as such but sorry im staying single,and it a lot better,as i now have it all!!!
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Tuesday 17 November
Written by brightside
It's amazing how jaded some of you have become, and how "anti-man" or "anti-woman" this debate is. What is wrong with just waiting for love and taking it and giving it and enjoying the good in life? Women are not all gold diggers (imagine how many have no time or energy for that effort) and men are not all just interested in having "no strings" one-night stands! Real love comes at different times in life for everyone, there is never one set formula. And that's OK!
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Tuesday 17 November
Written by BASHBACK
AOL you should be warned (again) about producing this hetrosexist drivel that has no bearing on the real world, there is no such thing as "real" men, or women for that matter, There are human beings, there is climate change, mass starvation, wars. When is AOL going to live in the REAL world and stop this last century rubbish?
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Tuesday 17 November
Written by A Owen
Let's just bundle this little sociological foray in with the rest of the tired cliches about women such as - obsession with shopping, obsession with shoes, obsession with marriage, etc.
I am a young woman in a relationship of 10 years. I do not want children, nor do I see the necessity to get married. It's a religious ceremony/legal contract. I do not believe in God and I do not want to my partners financial assets, I have my own. I feel totally secure in my relationship and would feel totally secure if he got up and left, saddened to the core, but quite able to move on.
Kid or no Kids? Women who choose not to have kids are ofter treated as aberrations of nature, child haters or 'selfish'( yes, 'selfish'). Damned if we do and damned if we don't.
On the subject of women 'letting themselves go when married' - there's nothing like an unsatisfactory marriage with a fat , snoring bore who is wedded to the golf course to turn a woman to food or suicide. It is startling how an unsatisfactory partner can sully the life of his wife to such an extent that she looses her life force, her self-esteem and 'give up.' There's nothing like an uncommunicative, unloving partner to bring you down. The contributer who cited this as a reason not to get married was slurring his own name by default. Not very clever. Perhaps like other contributors he fears he won't have the 'goods' to maintain a successful relationship. Avoidance is a common symptom of fear.
This whole concept of 'Gold Diggers' , sorry have we been watching too many blinged up rap videos? Not all women live their lives swinging around in bikinis around ugly men. We are analysing DNA in labaratories, shifting pig shit on farms, advising rural farmers in Africa about irrigation, leading surgical procedures in hospitals, or bringing up kids abandoned by their fathers. WAGs aside, most women would rather get on in life on the merits of their own achievements, because they can.
I think men should desist from flattering themselves to think that their salaries are worth sacrificing ones liberty and independence for. As for attraction to the manly qualities of power and status - there is nothing more slimy and repellant than a man wafting his tacky cash around. The flash car, the big house all signify to me a profound insecurity and lack of imagination. It's so desperate and so crass. If a woman is a gold digger then surely she is well matched to the superficial, cash obsessed man? Does not like attract like?
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Tuesday 17 November
Written by adamn
I would like to give my view on marriage which I think is the REAL view of a lot of REAL men. Firstly I am not a christian, I am spiritual and have my own religious beliefs some of which concur with christianity and some which do not, needless to say I don't go to church and it would feel very insincere for me to have a wedding in a christian place of worship, I would however understand if my bride was christian and a regular church goer. The main reason though is I dont want to be married in the eyes of the law, the eyes of my friends and family, the eyes of god and his representitive here on earth. The only eyes I care about are my wifes so everyone else shouldnt be there. My perfect wedding would be somewhere nice on a beach maybe, just me and her. I would ask her to be with me forever and she would say yes, we would look into each others eyes safe in the knowledge we are partners for life and no, we wouldnt be married in the eyes of the church or the eyes of the law but the only eyes we care about are looking lovingly back at us.
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