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Jun 17th 2009
written by: Ella Esmeralda
No fat woman wants to be told she's 'jolly' but what about the poor woman who was told 'this is an eat all you want, not eat all you CAN buffet?' We asked you for the worst thing you can say to a fat woman, with some surprising results...
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Sunday 21 June
Written by Robert Grundy
Iv just read the 'what not to say to a fat women' gallery, and it occurs to me that half the problem is not what is said, its how its taken, for example, 'I cant feel my legs' when cuddling, Even when a skinny girl sits on your lap, after a few minutes your legs have gone dead anyway, its not the weight of the person its just even a low weight blocks some arteries making your legs numb. And its all good saying gyms are full of skinny girls and sweating is undignified but speaking as a personal trainer, I work in a gym with lots of larger ladies and men, and no matter who you are you sweat in a gym, its natural. Its no excuse saying that you can't exercise because of your weight, otherwise your never going to lose weight or get healthy, even dieting alone isn't enough, having a balance of diet and exercise is the best way, walking at 5.5km/hour is were in those with BMI's over 30, fat metabolism is at its greatest, and thats just a slow walk, if walking is painful for your knees as many overwieght and skinny people have, try cycling at a low speed, theres not many 'real' excuses given in this gallery, i appreciate some things you shouldn't say such as the pregnancy one and the wedding dress one ( but thats extended family for you) for example, but some of the excuses are obsurd. There are many gyms some of which are women only ones with many overweight people in, and after a few sessions you will feel a lot more confident and in doing so it will help you stick to diets, theres no point dabbling in one diet for a week and then try another a week later you need to be patient, the best thing to do is ignore comments and i know how harsh they can be, I weighed 19 stone, as long as you know your doing something to change and help yourself, thats all that matters and for those who say horrible things, you can turn up a few months later and shut them up once you've lost the weight
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Sunday 21 June
Written by RiaMacQ
You know that's all bery good and helpful and is exactly what the larger members of socety do not want to hear! Some people are very happy in their bodies - thin, middlin' or larger - and although I am not overweight I HATE loathe and detest gyms because of the sanctimonious attitudes of those who use them and the sweaty sticky equipment in them! And they all smell of stale sweat - tried loads in the last 20 years and they are all the same. If exervise is what you fancy have a half hour walk and if you feel like it eleveate it to a run when you feel it's appropriate.
Sunday 21 June
Written by Mouse
Hello Marcus, You are the very reason I keep eating cake, I find it helps keep creeps away..
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Monday 22 June
Written by Gilly
Have you ever stopped to think WHY some people are overweight Marcus? It's not always about greed and love of 'sugary crap' (as you so nicely put it), but not everyone has the mental motivation to do something about it. I found your remarks completely judgemental and it is obvious that you have no idea about the psychological aspects of having a weight problem. We can't all have model figures - I bet you're no oil painting yourself, you skinny creep.
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Friday 10 July
Written by calypso
The 'fat person' debate will go on and on with never an end because there will always be overweight individuals. I get really fed up about this debate because it has been done to death. If a person is overweight and doesn't want to be, you do something about it. End of story. Do not get me wrong, i am not saying that it is an easy thing. As an overweight person myself, i can tell you that it isn't. The fact is that i would much prefer to have a slimmer figure...my preference i hasten to repeat and so i go to the gym and watch what i eat. That doesn't stop me from enjoying myself, going on dates and feeling and looking damn sexy. This comes from within because i feel good about myself and i like myself, i just want to be a less heavier person. So overweight people out there. Forget and ignore what people are saying. Do what works for you. If you are happy, then fine, go with it..life is too short. If you are not happy, then do something. Life is too short to be unhappy. A little something done everyday, makes a big difference. Personally, i love the gym, but you don't have to go there. You can do anything, anywhwere if you put your mind to it and are determined. Its not a race so you can take your time. At the end of the day it all boils done to personal choice because nobody can make you do what you don't want.
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Sunday 12 July
Written by RealisticGal
90% of the 15 things fat people didn't want to hear are just observing the obvious (you are fat) and the statements/suggestions are not disguising that fact but are based on the reality. Nearly all of the 15 fat people sending their "worst thing to say to me" to the editors stated that they prefer everybody around them to lie, to pretend something that's not true and to basically behave in a way that helps you to keep pretending you're something else than you are. IF you're happy being fat you don't have a problem with someone reacting to the obvious - but if you're NOT happy with it why do you insist on the rest of the world to help you keeping up your life full of lies?
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Monday 13 July
Written by Amanda
If you can take offence when someone tells you "you look well" then you're obviously not happy with your look. I've been a lard-carrying fat woman all my life, sometimes I've been bigger than I am now, and sometimes smaller. I watch what I eat, I walk everywhere, I put on weight if I eat cake and lose it when I eat salad. I like it when people tell me I have lovely eyes - apart from anything else, it probably means they're not looking at my chins! I agree that assistants in women's clothing shops can be insensitive (I was once told in a haberdashers that they couldn't stock dress patterns for larger people because they took up so much room!!!!!) but I have skinny friends, and tall friends, and short friends, and funny-shaped friends who get exactly the same treatment.
Fat women everywhere have a choice; either get busy enjoying the life, the body and the personality they have, or get busy changing it.
Me, I'm having a ball.
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Wednesday 15 July
Written by Nataly
I support the idea, that there are four types of people. There are people who get fat, people who never get fat, people who can lose and put on weight very easily. The clue is the speed of organism processes. Very often people who are really fat don't eat the fattest food, but they drink a lot. It is considered that water doesn't leave the body in a normal way. This was with my aunt. When she did'n work, she was fit, and when she began to work she put on weight. Normally it had to be vice versa butit happened to her because she began drinking coffee cup by cup.
That's one view on fat people.
The other thing I wanted to share with is my strong conviction that it is possible to lose weight in any case. Just keep looking for a method that can help. At this site http://www.picktorrent.com. there are lots of useful books, fitness programmes. It can be of great help for people who want to change.
But in fact the most important thing is a person's
desire. If a person really wants smth she or he will find the way to achieve it, sooner or later!
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Tuesday 21 July
Written by Cass
this has left me kind of confused as to what i can say so someone who is overweight, i can't compliment on their good looks - be it facial features, nice hair, big boobs nor can i compliment their personalities? either way im offending someone. something in this article annoys me - i have nothing against overwieght people, in fact my mother is even overweight although i do worry about her health.im the opposite, i have always been naturally slim, but im also petite - only 5"2. yet people seem to think its ok to say lots of things to a slim person - the childrens clothes gags, the "are you eating properly - you must starve?!". no i dont wear childrens clothes and im far from starving! no eating problems, no crazy exercise/eatig plans so i can be a size zero, just me. slim people are tired of bearing the brunt of the big people. guess what- we dont like it either.
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Thursday 23 July
Written by adrian johnson
Button it you faggot,you aint funny,not all fat people are fat,we all have slim souls ,unlike you ,you have no soul,and no goal, get a wife.
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by Dennis b
Fat people are lazy pigs with NO self discipline
Blaming it on genetics etc etc.
NO it is because you ram junk food down you greedy fat mouth 24/7 and do no exercise.
We ALL love food, But I love my health even more.
What part of "stuff loads of food down your mouth and do no exercise WILL make you fat" do you not understand.
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by maz
I am so tired of hearing about fat peoples feelings being hurt! I am thin. I would never look down on someone or hurt someone for anything, let alone weight...but why is it okay for you to call me skinny, anorexic, or say that I dont understand weight problems because I weigh 7.5 stone and you weigh more??? I have had three children, and have been a size 16. Fair enough, I find losing weight easy, but I have never had a health problem that has made me keep it on, nor have I ever found food a problem. I eat until I am full, then I stop. What you dont know is I eat up to 5 meals a day...healthy well balanced meals. That does not mean I wont eat unk...I love junk, but in the evening if I get hungry, I think how hungry I am and eat occordingly...If I just need a snack, I will eat crisps, but If I am hungrier I will make a sandwich...I dont just sit down with one thing after another. I am not saying that fat people are only fat becuase they eat too much becuase my mom is obese (american) and she does not eat all that much...she just eats the wrong things at the wrong times and does not excercise or understand how her body works.
If you want thin people to be nice, remember that we have feelings too and just because we are a healthy weight does not mean we dont eat or that we look down on you!!!
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by jenzee
Reading some of the comments above sickens me. I have been a size 10 - 12 most of my life and enjoyed playing most sports suddenly you have heart attacks and other disabilities and are put on a load of tablets. some of the tablets can affect muscles and you cannot move as well as you did and you certainly have to give up some of the sports you did. I am now swimming every day have a very poor appetite was never a person to eat things that would make you put on weight and yet I am absolutely paranoid about loosing weight and find it very hard although I am not putting anymore on am more or less stable at a weight I do not like...however I try hard go to the gym everyday to swim and work out and try to enjoy my life as there are people lots worse off than I am...so its not what I eat it is tablets and not being able to excert oneself as much as as I would like too. So just take some of this information into consideration.
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by maz
Um, a 10-12 is a perfectly normal size, as a matter of fact, 14 is average. You must take into account your body build. Some people have a larger bone structure. This is not a nice way to say you are overweight, it is a realistic view of ones body. If your hips are wide, you can excercise and diet until your concave, but you will still have to wear a size 10 because you cant shrink your bones! We all have areas we dont like...now you have to find help to know if that is a realistic view of your body or just your view. Excersise is not just for losing weight either, everyone should do it regularly...doing housework everyday for 30 minutes is usually enough...
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by Pat
I have read all the comments about what NOT to say to a fat person. - I am presuming that the majority of people who make these hurtful remarks would be your (so called) friends.
Who on earth would want a friend who insulted them in this cruel manner?
I would advise them to make a similar comment to them, and then they would know how it feels. Then ditch that 'friend' and find a good one!
By the way, I am 'average' weight for my height/age, so I don't speak from experience of weight, just the value of 'friendship'.
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by Marcus
To Gilly
"Skinny Creep", am I? So fatties are allowed to talk down to people of a healthy weight are they? Well tell me that again when I'm STILL not on any NHS waiting lists for cardiac problems & clogged veins & when I DON'T need hoists attached to my bedroom ceiling because it's the only way I can get my considerable arse out of bed every morning, tell me that again when I'm not draining the taxpayers' money for surgery & treatment because I couldnt reign in my gluttony.
My argument is simple physics. The only way mass can enter someone's body is through their MOUTH. No other way in. So, the equation goes:
Too much mass in = too much body mass.
Cut down on the cake.
And as for being no oil painting, well I'm sorry to shatter your pathetic attempt at bringing me & my 32inch waist down but I worked as a male model for 10 years, love. Oh & I'm also married to a dietician. I would suggest you go & console yourself with another 3 lard eclairs, but you're probably already doing that.
Have a happy (short) life, because you're not going to live very long carrying twice your healthy weight around. If you have kids (if someone's deemed fit to actually have sex with you at any point in your obese life) then think about how they're likely to spend more of their lives without you around, maybe that'll make you put the pie back & stop making pathetic excuses!
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by Marcus
Oh & Gilly...
If posts like mine don't give a person the "mental motivation" to change their ways & lose weight, then there's no saving them from obesity & illness & premature death (which can lead to family heartbreak). If people keep telling you you're fat, don't just sit there wallowing in your own filth saying "woe is me" & reaching for another cream cake for comfort, do something about it!!
What I would say is that these people need counselling, not diet advice (although most diets fail because the person on the diet simply isn't being honest with themselves - FACT) or people skirting around them NOT saying things as the article above suggests - that's just pandering to their mental illness surely? One of life's real lessons is that sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
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Wednesday 22 July
Written by chrisandmariette
I think you are losing a little perspective here, Marcus. What on earth puts you in a position to tell people how they should live or call them names!?! So youre fit, great. So am I, even better...so some people arent, who cares? Really, what difference does it make to your life? None.
As I said previously though, this does go both ways and I would like to repeat, I am thin, not skinny, I am not anorexic, I love my food, and I dont look down on you or call you names to your face or behind your back, so give me some respect. People who are of normal weight should not be made to feel guilty for being so...it goes both ways.
Wednesday 22 July
Written by Truth
Marcus if u were as good looking and in a happy marrige why wud u be spending your time making other people feel bad? To make yourself feel better? Or just to make people realise you are better when it is obvious you are not. Your hurtful comments to people who prehaps do have some issues with food dosent make you any better then them they could still be incredibly nice people who have had a hard time in life and may have turned yo food but that gives you no right to judge them. As for me i do not i am a healthy weight but other people may not be as fortunate i would never be shallow eneough to juge people by your standars. You need to get your life in order im only 13 and i still see that you are a total creep. So much for happy marrige, your partner should see you for what you are a shallow, inconciderate, low life!
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