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His erogenous zones

His erogenous zones: Lips
Why he'll love it
Men love a good tongue-lashing. No, we're not talking nagging - use that tongue of yours to drive him wild instead. Men get hugely turned on by kissing alone - and the better your kissing technique the more excited he'll be about what's to come. Take your time and experiment. Tease, probe, lick and suck. Start by lightly running the tip of your finger over his bottom lip. Then use the same finger to gently open his mouth as you tease your tongue between his lips. Use the tip of your tongue to slowly explore the edge of his lips, then gently suck on his bottom lip. Tease him for a little while longer, then thrust your tongue deeper into his mouth and search out his tongue with yours.
Advanced stimulation
Be confident with your kissing. Men find it a huge turn on for a woman to take control, so make sure he knows you're in charge. The lips, mouth and tongue are all highly responsive to different temperatures and tastes. Blindfold your man and feed him strawberries or ice-cream. Take a sip of hot tea and kiss him, or suck on an ice-cube and lick his tongue. Keep him guessing and ready for more.

His erogenous zones: Hair
Why he'll love it
The scalp has lots of nerve endings and rarely gets much attention. Men with short or shaved hair love having the back of their heads stroked. Forget petting the cat - give your man's head a stroke instead. If he has hair enough, get a good handful and gently pull his head back as you kiss him. As the passion builds, pull his hair a little harder to show him you're in control.
Advanced stimulation:
Make his day by giving him a sexy head massage in the shower or bath. Use slow circular motions at the temples to relax him and gently massage the back of his neck between thumb and index finger. There's nothing like a bit of wet frothy fun to get you both in the mood!

His erogenous zones: Ears
Why he'll love it
The delicate area in and around the ears is full of nerve endings and is highly sensitive to touch. Use your tongue to gently explore behind your man's ear. Probe, lick and gently suck on the outer edge of his ears. You can even go in for some gentle nibbling of the earlobes (that's with the emphasis on gentle!) Hearing the sound of your breathing and moans is a huge turn on for most men, so don't be shy about making a noise. Whisper some 'sweet' nothings in his ear and drive him wild. Just remember that talking dirty doesn't mean saying, 'Have you put the bins out yet darling?' If your not comfortable with dirty talk, concentrate on the moment and start a running commentary on what he's doing. Tell him exactly how good it feels when he touches you. Men will roll over for the slightest positive encouragement - tell him how turned on he's making you and he'll be begging to please you even more.
Advanced stimulation
Use the tip of your tongue to lick around the edge of his ear and suck on his earlobes as a sexy reminder of where your tongue will soon be touching him. Better still, whisper exactly where you'll be kissing him next.

His erogenous zones: Neck
Why he'll love it
The neck is highly sensitive and a great place to linger in between kissing your man's lips and moving further south. If he's wearing a shirt or tie there's plenty of fun to be had. Look him in the eye as you loosen his tie and fix him with that smouldering, sexy look of yours that no man can resist. Once you have his attention, begin stroking him along the length of his neck with the back of your hand. Think barely there, spidery touches. Start kissing his mouth, then travel down his body to kiss his ears and neck. As you do so, undo his shirt a button at a time and run your fingers along the edge of his collar bone. To get him hot under the collar use firm long licks along the edge of his collar bone to remind him that you're slowly but surely heading south.
Advanced stimulation
Only go in for rougher biting and sucking if he seems to want it. Think Buffy the Vampire Slayer - kick ass blondes are cute but blood sucking demons are plain scary.

His erogenous zones: Nipples
Why he'll love it
Men's nipples differ greatly in sensitivity. While some men will love having their nipples stroked, sucked and nibbled, others will be looking for the TV remote in seconds. The alpha male loves to have his manly chest adored, so don't be shy about showing your appreciation! Take your time and pay attention to the whole chest area. Gently massage his chest (using massage oil if you're feeling generous - sensual ylang ylang is a good choice). Use your tongue in light swirls around his nipples and gently suck if he's showing signs of appreciation. His nipples will become erect due to increased blood flow to the area - a natural reaction rather than a sign he's hugely turned on. Be careful not to get writhing pleasure confused with ticklish wrigging!
Advanced stimulation
If your man loves nipple stimulation, treat him to some nipple clamps. There are plenty to choose from. Go for ones with an interlocking chain, which you can use to increase the pressure and lead him wherever you want to go...

His erogenous zones: Penis
Why he'll love it
No prizes for guessing the number one male erogenous zone! They come in all shapes and sizes, and while some men like it harder and faster than others, most penises (usually) respond well to some skilful handling. The glans of the penis or 'head' contains the highest density of nerve endings, making it the most sensitive area. Connecting the head to the shaft is the frenullum. This V-shaped web-like piece of skin is also highly sensitive and responds well to light stroking or licking. (Circumcised men often are less sensitive in this area due to being desensitized by the constant friction of clothing). Use your hands or your mouth on him - or use both at the same time (you know how you women are great at multi-tasking!) If using your hands, try adding some lubrication.
Advanced stimulation
If you're giving him oral, remember to make eye contact with him as much as possible. There's nothing hornier than seeing a girl enjoying herself.
Lick from your man's perineum (between his balls and anus) all the way up to the top of the head in long, continous movements. Next swirl your tongue around the tip of penis, paying extra attention to the frenullum (the sensitive stringy bit where the skin joins the head). Once you have his (by now undivided) attention, take the shaft into your mouth and suck it like a lollipop - et voila.

His erogenous zones: Testicles and perineum
Why he'll love it
Most men will gladly trawl around the shops for hours in return for a morning's ball fondling. Once the penis is erect, the testicles become engorged and will tighten up due to increased blood flow. Many men like to have their balls pulled, while some may request firmer tugging. So, while your one hand is busy working his shaft, use the other to fondle and pull down on his balls. The scrotom is a highly sensitive area - but it's also highly fragile. Apply too much pressure and you may find yourself thrown across the room! Ladies, you have been warned.
If you want your man to drive you to Ikea, it's a good idea to get down and lick and suck on his balls. Try gently putting one in your mouth and humming a happy tune. Just think matching cushion covers and curtains...
Advanced stimulation:
Massage your man's perineum (the ridged area of skin between his scrotum and anus) just before he comes to make his orgasm even more explosive. You'll need to apply a reasonable amount of pressure - you may find it easier to apply some massage oil or a little saliva first. Keep the movements slow or you'll risk making him squirm with ticklish giggles rather than orgasmic delight.

His erogenous zones: Bottom and anus
Why he'll love it
The anus is packed full of nerve endings and is a treasure trove of pleasure for many couples. Some guys can't get enough anal play, while others would hit the roof with anything but pleasure if you let your fingers do the walking. Make sure you ask your man about his personal preferences before you go delving in. If you fancy giving it a go, make sure to use plenty of lubrication. Stroke around the edge to begin with, then gently insert (a lubricated) finger. Start with shallow and slow movements. If you're feeling adventurous, grab him as he comes out of the shower and let your tongue do some exploring. Anal stimulation is so pleasurable for men thanks to the prostate gland.
Advanced stimulation
There are plenty of anal sex toys on the market to play around with. Again, use plenty of lubrication and go slow - and shallow - to begin with. Vibrators aren't just for you girls!

His erogenous zones: Prostate gland
Why he'll love it
The prostate gland is a hidden erogenous zone that takes some finding - but once found it's seldom forgotten. If correctly stimulated, the prostate gland can give a man a rapid and intense orgasm. Some men find that stimulation of this area alone can bring them to climax. No wonder it's also known as the male 'G-spot.' The prostate lies approximately 8cm inside the rectum. You'll need to insert a (well lubricated) finger inside him and feel for a raised, bumpy area on the front facing wall. It should be bigger and easier to find the older your man is. Once you've found it, try moving your finger in a beckoning motion, just as you would to stimulate the female G-spot. Go extra gently at first.
Advanced stimulation:
Once you've found the spot, you can try stimulating his prostate while using your hand or giving him oral. Orgasms tend to happen more quickly and are more intense, so watch out if you prefer not to swallow!